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Authenticity : Find The Path To The Real You

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Change occurs, whether you want it or not. Maybe a major setback has left you powerless. Or maybe you are under stress, burnout is bubbling to the surface, you are unable to feel joy and to invest your life with meaning. You wake up every morning dreading the day and feeling like you should stay in bed. You avoid looking into your bathroom mirror because you are ashamed of your self-image. But is it really your self image ? Or is it shaped by conditioning ? By your struggle to "get along with the world" ?

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10 Tactics For Increasing Your Mental Ability

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GET_FOCUS_THE_SECOND_ACTNo idea what to do with your lfe ? Start by getting your mind going first. Scientific research shows that exercising your brain keeps your mind from stagnating and creates the "cognitive reserve" you need when facing major changes. Fill the gap created by your productivity exhaustion and get back your motivation and creativity. Try these 10 tactics for increasing your mental ability.
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Reconnect with the child inside. Play with food ! Be silly !
(Created by myself with my 10-year old daughter)

As mentioned in the previous post, when you are unable to figure out the action you need to take, don't waste your time going around and around in your head. Instead of misusing your brain, train your mind to think outside the box.

Brainstorm with yourself.
Make a list : write the first word that comes to your mind, then add 20-30 other words that come to mind. Read each word and write two things about it. As you do this, ideas will start flowing.

Have a conversation with your brain.
Let your mind flow then write down one of your random thoughts. Challenge an element of the thought with the question "What do I mean by this ?" Write down the answer. Challenge an element of the answer with the same question. Repeat this Q&A for 10 minutes, next day for 15 minutes, until you get into the habit of having a half an hour conversation with your brain every day.

Use both hemispheres.
Find out which hemisphere of your brain you use most. Take this Hemispheric Dominance test for instance (a brief explanation of the questions here). As you know, right-brain persons process from whole to parts, while left-brain persons process from parts to whole. For the first, the process is random and intuitive, for the second, it is linear and logical.

Tone your left hemisphere by practicing mathematical problems, word puzzles, learning a new language… Tone your right hemisphere by reading maps, creating metaphors, painting or drawing your thoughts instead of writing them down, etc.

And also :
  • Practice mindfulness.
  • Break the pattern of your activities.
  • Mix prose and poetry in your readings (and writings).
  • Do something you've never done before.
  • Go somewhere inspiring.
  • Make time to play cards, video games, chess, Scrabble, any game.
Above all :

Reconnect with the child inside.
Play with food, jump rope, finger paint, read children's stories… and be SILLY ! Ridiculous "what if" scenarios are actually a powerful tool for learning to think "outside the box". And, who knows ? One of those "what ifs" could prove to be a life changing idea !

These are just some of the ways you can take to maintain and increase your mental ability. Tell us about your tacttics to think outside the box.

Next : Move Into Your Authentic Self.

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Kick Start Your Creative Thinking.
Let Your Mistakes Be Part Of Your Style.

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No Idea What To Do With Your Life ? Rejuvenate Your Brain !

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THE SECOND ACT GET ON TRACKYou are in transition. You wish you could create a major change. Instead you find yourself going around and around in your head, unable to sort things out. Will you ever fill the gap created by your productivity exhaustion and get back your motivation and energy ? Yes, you will : stop overusing, underusing, misusing your brain trying to figure out what action you need to take. Rejuvenate it first. Get your mind ready to create and direct your Second Act.

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Kick Start Your Creative Thinking

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We are all creative. Every day. In many ways. Yet many people believe creativity belongs exclusively to "artists". This self-limiting belief discourages them from attempting major life changes, blocks their road to authenticity, forces them to live frustrating lives, full of bitterness over lost opportunities.

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Self-limiting beliefs : how to update your Belief System

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Self-limiting beliefs operate at a deep level and lead us to self-sabotage. They are outdated software, blocking our growth and discarding all possibility of a major life change. Start training your mind to delete them.

In Snow White, when the Queen asks her mirror : "Who in the land is fairest of all", the mirror replies : "You are". And the Queen believes it. Until one day, the mirror responds : "Snow White is fairer". And the Queen believes it too.

We all have an inner mirror in our head and we all indulge in chattering with it. And the result is our Belief System. Some of our beliefs about ourselves are positive, some are negative. All operate at a deep level and affect our journey through life, including the way we manage change. Visualizing the destination, setting goals and building steps for an action plan are all useless efforts if the starting point – our belief system – is limiting.

Limiting beliefs come from parents, society, coping mechanisms we develop to protect ourselves each time we are exposed to adversity . But we tend to hang on to them, failing to notice that they are no longer appropriate to the circumstances. They become outdated software, blocking our growth and discarding all possibility of a major life change.

Things just happen. Life is like this. No pain no gain. You have to grab what you can… And also : You are not beautiful enough, not smart enough, not educated enough…

"No use in trying", concludes the inner mirror. "Remember? You tried once and failed". Thus, our limiting Belief System forces us into actions leading to self-punishment, self-sabotage, self-defeat. Updating the system is easier said than done. Why? Because it validates our procrastination, our fear of failure, our reluctance to leave our comfort zone for the "great unknown".

Ask yourself :

1. Which are the top 5 things that I control in my life?
2. Which are the top 5 things that I cannot control in my life?
3. Which are the things that I am not sure I can control and why?
4. Which are the 5 most important choices I made in the last 12 months?
5. Am I getting closer to or farther from my vision of successfull living?
6. Is my goal possible? Desirable? Worthwhile? Why?
7. What is holding me back?
8. What propels me forward?
9. Which are the areas in my life that bring me joy? Pain? That I try to ignore?
10. Am I satisfied with my creativity?

To effect change :

- Accept that your beliefs are not permanent.
- Understand that they are not based on evidence but on assumptions.
- List past decisions for your life that did not work.
- Analyze how they were influenced by beliefs.
- Congratulate yourself each time you identify negative beliefs.
- Recall when, how, why you adopted them.
- Start training your mind to say "CANCEL" when they manifest themselves.
- Stay away from toxic, "can't do" people.

Above all, stop acting according to what you think is true - your beliefs - and start acting according to what you know is important to you - your values.

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Time Management Tool : The Stress Diary

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THE SECOND ACT GET COMFORTAs mentioned in the Introduction to the Time Management Series, make self-observation the starting point to managing your time differently. Don’t try to change immediately the way you organize your day. That would be a waste of time. You need to get some distance from yourself first. Start by finding the answers to 7 questions that will help you identify your time management capacities. (Read Questions 1-3 here, Question 4 here).

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Excellence vs Perfection. Managing Your Time Part II

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THE SECOND ACT GET STARTEDBecome the master of your own day, experts say. Become the master of your own way first, as I say in the Introduction to this series. Explore your time management potential by answering the 7 questions listed in this three-part article (you will find questions 1-3 in Part I).

EXCELLENCE VS PERFECTION

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Manage Your Time From The Inside Out : Observe Your Capacities

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GET STARTED THE SECOND ACTAs mentioned in the Introduction to this series, if you want to learn how to manage your time, you better start by learning who you are. Instead of rushing to adopt other people’s time management techniques, adapt techniques to your personality. Explore your potential by answering to the 7 questions listed in this three-part article.

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